This is my 20-year-old son standing in front of his two-family house that he just bought. All through school he didn’t have much in common with many of the kids. He didn’t like sports, he was very quiet, he didn’t have many friends, he didn’t get invited to birthday parties, pre-prom parties, end of year parties or sweet 16’s.
He never went to watch school sporting events. He actually never said anything about not being included or invited anywhere.
Looking back I think it bothered me a lot more than it bothered him. Any club or group I signed him up for he did not like. He felt he just didn’t click with other kids. He cried the first day of kindergarten. He cried when I signed him up for summer camp, so every summer he worked with my husband.
He would leaving the house at 7AM and coming home at 7PM each day. He started his own business plowing driveways and cutting lawns in our town before he could even drive.
All he liked to do was work. He worked with my husband from when he was 5 years old (and still does). I always worried about him socially and worried about him not being included and not having a lot of friends. He always liked being with adults.
Here he is 20 years old and bought a house. He runs his own excavation business and is a foreman for our company.
To say I am proud is definitely an understatement. To all you mama’s out there with a child like my son, please remind yourself everyday… its ok if sports are not their thing, its ok to not have a lot of friends, football games and social things are not for everyone and neither is college. They will find their way and will be ok.