1. I SUPPORT YOU, NO MATTER WHAT
A daughter who has a strong, reliable support system in her mother feels more grounded and confident to try new things, and learn and grow from different experiences. She will know that even if she attempts something new and fails, her mother will support her, and have her back, empowering her to make smart choices, which can lead to great opportunities for her future. Having a supportive mother, eliminates the feeling of shame which so many teenage girls feel throughout middle school and high school.
2. I’M PROUD OF YOU
No matter how old you are, hearing the words; “I’m proud of you”, instantly lifts a person’s spirits and makes them feel loved and accepted. Telling your daughter that you’re proud of her, especially when things haven’t gone according to plan, gives her a sense of accomplishment and the courage to try again.
3. YOUR SELF-WORTH HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR BODY SHAPE OR WEIGHT
Studies have shown that women are judged based on their weight and body shape. This rarely happens towards males, so as a mother, it is crucial to instill confidence in your daughter that her character, her choices, and the type of person she chooses to be, is more important than what she looks like.
4. WHO YOU SPEND YOUR TIME WITH IS VERY IMPORTANT
The 5 people you spend most of your time with need to share your values and morals, and they also need to be there for you in good times and in bad times. Friends, who do not meet these criteria, are not really your friends.
5. TAKE FEW OPINIONS.
One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received was, take few opinions. Girls from 5-50 years of age are constantly asking others for their opinion to validate their choices, on what they wear, how they look, and what they should do or say. If you ask 10 people for their opinion, you’ll get 10 different responses. Learn to value your own opinion for every choice you make.